Pain In The Bum
I'm sitting in a Travel Inn near Huntingdon after visiting my trusty McTimoney Chiropractor in hopes of walking without pain. Last week, I was feeling very lively and so confident that I dragged my suitcase down the Euston Road where I would normally leave it with the hotel concierge. Since travelling to London, I have found that the concierge is very helpful and I can manage not to have to lift my suitcase at all if I smile sweetly. Last week, however, I had been bouncing down the road with some energy and a distinct lack of creaking, so decided I was fine to do the suitcase drag, which would save me heaps of time and get me home earlier. Bad plan.
I made the march along Euston Road, suitcase in tow and got to my destination without even going pink or breathless. Yippee!!! Thought I, impressed at my increased fitness after loosing ten pounds (none of it at the bookies) and recovering from a cold. By the time I got to my destination, I was striding along like I haven't for ages. Great stuff. The bad bit of the plan was that I had to sit in a classroom for a whole day on the most unspeakably uncomfortable chairs ever built and I think my pelvis set itself wonky and stayed there. No amount of stretching, painkillers or anti-inflammatories would allow me to sleep. I couldn't lay on either side as the pain was too excruciating, laying on my back was like resting on a pile of hot coals and face down didn't feel much better as I had managed to pull my pubic synthesis out of line; sleep came through exhaustion.
My lovely Chiropractor is a tiny lady, barely 5' tall and ex Navy, so quite a fierce, dynamic little bundle of energy, but someone I cannot rate highly enough. She fixes me up if I fall or knock myself out of kilter with a brisk and cheery slap and tweak. I have tried to find someone locally who can do the same, but after visiting 4 different Chiropractors and one Osteopath, all of whom seemed to want to heal my soul more than my poor, knackered old body, I gave up and decided it was worth driving over to the other side of the country when the need arose.
So, here I am, in a motel, propped in a comfortable chair, with a mug of fruit tea and even though parts of me feel like they are on fire, I can move and walk without looking like I have lost my horse! The bonus of this long trip is that I have landed near to where my son lives and he came to visit me after work. We went for dinner and it was such a treat. He has grown into a really nice man and is wonderful company and a really entertaining conversationalist.
All this pain has had a good outcome. I may be sore at the moment, but I don't take walking freely for granted, I had a wonderful evening with my son and I'm missing 'Im Indoors madly. I suppose sometimes you just need a good old pain in the bum to realise that life is really rather good - it puts things in perspective. Yup, life is good, thank you very much!


2 Comments:
Lovely to hear that you have someone who can help you when things go wrong in yur articulations!! We have a family back-cracker, Sarah, who is worth every penny of £32 an hour, and we all slope off to see her at regular intervals and come back bouncing and radiant with all our joints working properly. Hooray, hooray for folk like your chiropractor!!
And it's lovely that you get on so well with your son. I must admit to trepidation about what the future holds... I want him to have his own life and love life like I do, while still loving me as his mum and a friend. Am I asking too much??! I can't do worse than my own mother!! :-)
Ah, mothers and sons. I have to admit to continuing surprise and delight at how our relationship has worked out.
Nick, my son, lived with his father and I until he was nearly 8 at which point his father left. Nick spent the next 5 years living with me and being a perfectly monstrous creature. He would go to his father's fortnightly for the weekend and come home saying the most vile things, learned by rote, and it really was a trial.
I had always been the disciplinarian and as a child with opinions on just about everything, we often found ourselves at loggerheads! Nick always adored his father, thought the sun shone but came to me when he was in trouble, worried or unable to deal with anything - I think that it was because he knew I would fight his corner, even if it meant getting a flea in his ear if he deserved it!
At about 14, Nick decided that it was only fair that he spent some time living with his father. This handily coincided with an increased homework workload that I was nagging him to deal with. Nick, I'm sure, felt that he could move in with his father, not get nagged, do no homework and have the fun life he had on his fortnightly weekend visits every day. I helped him pack, told him he could move back with me any time he wanted and gritted my teeth.
Within a few months, I had changed from being the bad, old ogre to a really fun person who he only saw fortnightly at weekends and the hoped for respite in nagging never materialised. Sadly, Nick's father didn't encourage him to work at school, so I still had the 'pleasure' of dealing with that aspect, but my son discovered that he was doing 3 and 4 times the amount of housework and chores that he did at home with me!
There were times, up until he reached about 18 1/2 when it was really hard work communicating with Nick, but suddenly, things just changed. His hormones subsided, he started walking, talking and acting like an adult and he blossomed into a really lovely person.
These days, we have all sorts of conversations about anything and everything - working hard at communication skills, talking openly and above all being honest with him has given us a very good foundation.
Last autumn he brought his girlfriend home to meet us and we had to learn a whole new way of interacting with him and g/f - it was an interesting challenge! She is a really delightful girl and they seem really happy together, so that's good enough for me.
I had talked to him when he was young and tried to explain that love is infinite: that if I loved him I could still love someone else and it wouldn't diminish the amount of love there was for him and that the same applied to him and to his father. I'm quite certain that he didn't really believe a word of it at the time but maybe the message got through somehow.
The end of the teen years are probably harder for a parent than for the child - they are growing up and that's all they know. As a parent, you have to learn to evolve the relationship from adult/child to adult/adult and that's incredibly tough as we all develop habits that become ingrained.
You are not asking too much at all. The fact that you are aware of it means that you'll probably do a fantastic job - after all, much of it is about seeing things from the perspective of the other person involved in the relationship. Your little lad is a lucky boy!
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